Relationship – Understanding (2 of 3 part series)
It may be time to say goodbye if a particular friendship consistently looks only for themselves or one-sided friendships. They only want you to listen to their whining but never listen to you when you have one. If we take care of our friendship to secure it for good, what good will it bring us when the friends we treat as real friends are the only ones we associate with? No matter how much energy we put into keeping those friendships together, it goes down the drain as if nothing exists. We only exist in their lives because we want to. Life is vanity that way.
Real friendship involves mutual understanding, a give-and-take relationship like a husband and wife has to be. It gives each one the same treatment—freedom to share what is burdensome and solves an issue that could strengthen the relationship. Trust is lovely, but jealousy is harmful. In a relationship, when there is mistrust, it will lead to an unpleasant relationship that could happen among friends. Breakups are a weapon the enemy of our faith induces to put into our minds. Our mind is the battlefield of faith and trust.
Marriage or authentic friend relationships have in common. It is an effigy of one body, mind, and Spirit, a bone of my bone, and a flesh of my flesh experienced in the Garden of Eden, where life begins. Sin entered the world, and the joy of our relationship with the Father broke loose, and we turned into a perfect imperfection of God’s creations. We are human; mistakes are common excuses when we miss the mark. Nevertheless, a sin is a sin that needs to be forgiven. To reconcile with the Father, we need Jesus, who asks the Father to send the Holy Spirit as his replacement. We need the fruit of the Holy Spirit in our lives to have lasting joy in our relationship.
God the Father agrees with Jesus, and His Spirit is now within us, which built a bridge for our direct connection with the Father. We have to acknowledge the existence of the Holy Spirit of God to have a high-yielding, fruit-bearing relationship. Galatians 5:22-23 says The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Do we need more to add to this gift of the Spirit when it covers them all? Nothing opposite to these fruits will bear fruit of goodness by any means. The relationship inspires but distracts our lives if there is an irreconcilable difference. The Bible says, “Not to be bound together with unbelievers” (2 Corinthians 6:14).
Unbelievers separated their lifestyle from God. They see darkness as their light and want to see people forcefully be like them if not taken deceitfully, which is their weapon for showing their kindness. Temptations are another way to lure us, but it is more of our fault if we fall to their lying tongues. Their job is to devour us, and our job is to show them our willingness to defend our trust that God will never leave us nor forsake us, especially when our soul is in a danger zone. Jesus says: “My Father who has given them to me is greater than all. No one can snatch them out of my Father’s hand”-(John 10:29).
God Bless Everyone!