Being a victim of Gossips is everyone’s nightmare. Everyone is vulnerable to this wrong doings and can have a big impact to someone else’s life. It can do mental and physical harm. Whether the people talking either want to get something out of you, want to get even for some misunderstanding in the past, it could also be a product of envy and many more things that could be added up. For us who know better should always be aware not to fall for these inventors of evil ways. They are filled with wickedness, evil thoughts, selfishness and will deprive you of your rights to defend yourself because they attack behind your back.
Sometimes gossipers act as if they care but their action is more on destroying their prey, no mercy and no understanding of what God has ordained us. Gossip can lead to lying and eventually becomes a sin. Although they know God’s command is to love one another, they should also know that gossip typically involve statements that are not verified or confirmed to be true, therefore it is a lie. God hates all kinds of liars and these liars do not only continue to do these evil things but also approve, encourage and support those who practice it. Gossipers cannot help themselves to do a good deed because they are under the ignorance of life that gives much joy.
Do we have to avoid this kind of people? Do we have to entertain it for the sake of friendship to avoid embarrassment or we have to be bold and put a stop to it? Paul wrote Timothy about this slanderous act: “Besides, they get into the habit of being idle and going about from house to house. And not only do they become idlers, but also busybodies who talk nonsense, saying things they ought not to.
So I counsel younger widows to marry, to have children, to manage their homes and to give the enemy no opportunity for slander.” 1Timothy 5:13-14
Gossip can be defined as information about the behavior or personal life of other people, often without the proven truth and sometimes revealed the source where it originated to make it more believable. God's Word warns us to stay away from people who gossip and to guard our words when we speak about others. “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”Ephesians 4:29
The power of the tongue is like a two edged sword that can hurt the victims with either sides. There is no escape not to be wounded. Scripture also uses the word slander which means making false statements and can bring friendships down. Marriage can be seriously damaged, family relationship, job and reputation. “Do not spread false reports. Do not help a guilty person by being a malicious witness.” Exodus 23:1
The Bible tells us to pay attention to the words that comes out of our mouth and hold the one which we should not say. There are words when carelessly delivered have an immediate impact that is too late to recover. As Christian boldly representing the World of God, we must take heed of our deeds and be more responsible with our ministerial (Servanthood) duties as revealed to us for the victory of the kingdom.
The power of the Holy Spirit will help us meet the spiritual needs of those around us and help them be part of the Divine nature of God. Remember that Christians are ministers of the good news and there is no reason to be ashamed to work hard so we can present ourselves approve to God, rightly dividing and correctly explains the word of truth— 2Timothy 2:15. Paul added in Ephesians 4:29—“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”
If you are struggling with gossip or know someone who gossips a lot, James the brother of Jesus said; “Brothers and sisters, do not slander one another. Anyone who speaks against a brother or sister or judges them speaks against the law and judges it. When you judge the law, you are not keeping it, but sitting in judgment on it.” James 4:11
God Himself gave us guidance; “Do not go about spreading slander among your people. “ ‘Do not do anything that endangers your neighbor’s life. I am the LORD.” Leviticus 19:16
When someone spreads rumor that defame or damage other’s reputation then it falls as the work of evil mind. Gossip gets a negative human acceptance no matter how good or careful it is being said. A rumor is information that is unverified truth that is passed between individual or group of individuals. Gossip may not be verified but the veracity points to the originator of the gossip and targeted directly the subject which is known to the third party. Gossip is contained to group of individuals known by both party, while rumor could be universal. Hearsay can be a rumor or a gossip.
Information received from other sources such as; people that we know, from politicians that we only know by name and even the media nowadays do report news that cannot be trusted. People that cannot provide sufficient evidence to support their claim can either be rumor mongering or gossipers. Any Unsubstantiated facts should not be trusted, either from individuals, politicians and the broadcast media including talk shows and written articles.
Whether it is a gossip or rumor it needs a subject or subjects and listeners. Listeners are at utmost importance. It is where they build the arena to assault or to praise the intended subject/s, the intentions to degrade or to honor a person will only succeed if they fully encouraged the listeners to believe that it is not a gossip or a humor but the truth. Without an interaction from the listeners, it will not succeed no matter how hard they try and no matter how true it is. It involves credibility, trust, reliability and consistency. A liar always makes mistakes of lying to their tongue, changing statements every time they open their mouth.
“It is better to tell the truth than lies, because to believe on lies you have to often say it while to tell the truth you only say it once.” JVitug
If there is such a thing as a good gossip maybe that was then. Karma is supposed to be a good or bad fate destination, cause and effect, right or wrong, good or evil but now it become one sided. Gossip turned to be the same way. If you want to express gratitude or praising an individual person better eliminate a third person to avoid situations where it will become rumor. You can point fingers who started the rumor but can easily be denied because of the absence of facts while gossip you already know where it came from. So we can conclude that rumor can be a gossip but gossip can never be a rumor.
There's no doubt that when the act of gossiping to grab attention end up to an itchy ear, it may create misleading and more aggravating situations, twisting words can add chaos. We have to be careful with a person that you know very well that may cause your entire secret to be revealed, one who pathologically lies on all things, one who enjoy taking to talebearer or rumor mongering. They approach people who don’t even mind other business. Gossipers are privilege to know you better than yourself. They are inventors of a person’s characters and situations too.
We can distinguish gossipers in many ways:
-They share your personal information to others for their personal gain.
-They intentionally make up stories to discredit an individual.
-They build up their own profile and weakened others thru rumors.
-They speak unjustly behind their back.
-They speak falsely in any way they can, using lies and deceit.
-They will not stop devising or designing tools to get into their desired goal.
-They are more than happy to share the failings of others and ignored the success and that is called envy.
-They are the one that are more than willing to expose how much you give to the donation box while they keep their own in secret.
-They are the one that is deprived of sleep until they do evil things.
So, we have to avoid associating ourselves to unequally yoke which is more dangerous than we should ever think. Paul inspired words in 2 Corinthians 7:14 He said though it’s about intimate relationship in particular. The big picture is about relationship in general that intimate relationship for unequally yoke is being discouraged and it is impossible to be right when you are in disagreement with wrong. It needs unity of the mind. What does righteousness do that the wicked do not do? How can you combine the equal portion of salt and sugar and make it delicious? How can you serve two masters without despising one? The right things and the wrong things cannot go together in one plate. You cannot put together good food and spoiled food and said it is good to eat!
“Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? Or what does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?” (2 Corinthians 6:14-15)
No relationship apart from Christ can be truly “good” (Mark 10:18). Love made us complete and the power of confidence will make us pass through the judgment— Christ is true love (1 John 4:16-17)
Good or Bad, Negative or Positive gossip, it is still a gossip that we do not want to hear. In unity with the Holy Spirit let us just say No to gossips! And be glad we did!! Thank LORD, thank you Jesus our 2nd and last Adam thank you Holy Spirit for all the things we have.